socially speaking

Being out in the big wide world can be a scary thing at times.

Imagine being out in the world where a car back firing can cause heart wrenching fear, driving in the car produces anxiety way beyond all reasonableness, crowds of people equal danger, unplanned and unknown situations are to be avoided and the simple pleasures of just being social can turn to disaster very quickly.

Exhausting to say the least. 


As a partner I'm now hyper vigilant when it comes to social situations or if we are out in public. I look for potential situations that I know my Mr won't handle and try to intervene or remove us from them.

We are not an easy couple to be around at times. We need understanding and patience and family and friends can understandably tire of this. Being around someone who is constantly depressed is not easy.

Anti-social probably best describes us now. 

A night a home with our pups and our own company seems to work best for now.

How do you handle social situations? Do you find you avoid going out these days?

one of those days

Today has been not one of our best. I could feel the tension rising for the past week and we've not mastered the art of diffusing situations before they become a problem. We certainly know what to do, we've been told many times but still can't pull it off.

My Mr has been withdrawing all week and communication has been difficult at times. The level of irritation increasing. All signs that all is not well.

Sometimes I'm good at being calm and understanding then there are others when with everything else going on in life I get cranky, easily. Just human really.

We are both as stubborn as one another so the arguments can go on and on.

PTSD can be so destructive on relationships. We've taken a pounding.

Time to hug a pup I think.


How do you know when you're about to fall in a heap at home?

Do you have any strategies that you use when you can feel the tension rising or your partner withdrawing?